my friend is so depressed - advice?

[Soba]

my friend, emily, is starting to become depressed, she says she's been having thoughts about hurting herself, i'm scared that she might be thinking of suicide.
i don't think emily really deserves to be like that because she's so smart and going through enough as it is with her illness, yanno? i mean, she's the person anyone can turn to and start smiling because she's usually so cheerful.
i really want to know what i can do to make her feel better about what's going on, but i don't know what. advice anyone?


V just read our convo for yourself (i couldn't edit it to the point where she explains it herself)

[GohanX]

well I guess da only thing I can tell ya is to find someone who gives great advice and you have to be able to trust dat person. try her parents or a counselor<<<<<(spelling)

[Laguna Loire]

Hey Gohanx, I don't know about her parents seing as how they're aparently always yelling...But yeah. You need someone who has great advice like a counsilor (I can't spell either). That's what I think anyway.

[GohanX]

my bad I didn't mean to put "her" parents I meant to put "your" parents

[Laguna Loire]

Ah. Yeah, that's a good idea. Try asking your own parents. They'd help you.

[Pixels]

well I guess da only thing I can tell ya is to find someone who gives great advice and you have to be able to trust dat person. try her parents or a counselor<<<<<(spelling)


your mother and father are always the first people you run to..

i'm pretty good with stuff like that.... i helped loads of people before.... like, suicidle, people hurtin themselves, all sorts..

i'm nto suggesting that u get her to talk to me coz i don't know her. but i'm always here to help out... but, i don't think right now is the best time to get a counselor involved. That would make 'emily' feel more pressured and probably force her further into it.... well, thats my opinion

[Half-White]

Well I guess the best thing to do is basically show her that you care about her and try to be the best friend to her that you can be. That might help her overcome thoughts of suicide and give her something to live for.

[Cid Highwind]

I've seen these things before..

Seems to me like this isn't really serious yet, dangerous yes, but she hasn't done anything yet.

She cries for attention from her family but doesn't get any. Always very dangerous. The only thing you can do is be there for her when she needs you, but... don't push her into doing things.

She needs to set everything straight herself.

I know it's hard this way, but it's the best way, without her getting hurt mentally or physically.

If something serious has or is happening contact me if you don't know what to do.

You are a good person and I can see you care for her and worry for her safety, don't worry too much yet though...

[Soba]

thank you...wasn't really sure what actions should be taken..

[Sister of Metal]

yes, these things appear more and more...it's hard for others to help becuz the one who suffer has to climb out of it...( but thats just repeating Bro's words, I know)..but still

[Forsaken]

it's unfortunate how our emotions make up so much of us that even the smallest thing can become so outta control, and for no reason at all.

I think it's hormones and chemical imbalances that cause it, such as going through puberty. it's difficult to approach it too because all people are different and take differently to help and such

all I know is never give up hope, if a person pulls themselves so down into despair and give up hope, if you let them drag u there to, that's when people can tend to get suicidal

hope all goes well for you, I know how your feeling, I've been there myself, and had someone close actually completely let go...

[cHilli]

Well judging on how she said it and the jolyness of her in the text i dont think she is in immediate danger. But needs help. Friends more than anything else, like someone she can talk to.

[Dragon Fire]

You can always suggest therapy..... so she can let all her thoughts out and tell it to someone so that person can prevent her from hating or have feelings of suicide. Well... that's my opinion

[Forsaken]

a good idea, but like I said, not always the best idea