Alright. Who can help me grow some guts...

[Vagamefreak]

Okay. I recently saw someone the other day at her work. This person you guys might know. Her name is Katy Boyd. Ring a bell? Yes? No? I'll give you another hint. She goes by "bunnyXablaze". Figured it out yet? Yes, the semi-famous pro gamer herself lives near me.

Now, I've always had some infatuation with her in my own way that she really has no clue. I saw her working at Gamestop the other day and almost had a heart attack. It was really her, IN PERSON. I immediately quickly walked all the way to the back. Calmed down...and left -_-...Yes. I LEFT.

I wanted to talk to her so bad. I just feel she's way out of my league. I don't even feel like i'm in the same library as her. I also don't want to sound like a fool because I don't even know in what ways I can approach her to catch her attention.

She accepted my friends request on Myspace, but, unfortunately, she's a pro gamer, she probably gets thousands of friend requests from fans. I don't want to be just another fan though, I want to try and be her friend I guess. I sent her an Xbox Live request too, but no return on that yet.

Should I give up? I don't want to give up to be honest. So if anyone can give some advice...I'd be groveling at your feet.

Thanks.

[STEELIX]

if she works there then go buy something
strike up a conversation at the counter

[Cid Highwind]

Wait WTF, she is just a "semi-pro gamer" and that makes her untouchable? Dude, that's nothing, she's just another normal person, especially gamers man, they're the most down to earth people ever. That's not a celebrity or anything.

I have friends who date models, and even like big corporate daughters. That's where you'll get trouble, they are spoiled, only used to attention and big money.

To be honest, I wouldn't mind pro gaming being like really out there, I wouldn't mind if they would get payed to do so, but I would never ever in my life view them higher then myself. They are seriously regular people, I can't believe the way you are looking at some normal girl who plays games.


Oh and to answer your question, sorry it just really surprised me, I totally forgot about giving a handy answer.

Just ask her something, start a conversation, if you want to secure it just take it really slow, because you can show you like her right from the start, but that will probably end in a no because she has no idea who the hell you are.

If you just come in from time to time and talk to her more and more, and exchange stories, jokes, etc. she will get to know the real you, and can actually form an honest opinion about you, which leads into a bigger chance of saying yes to your request to dating her or whatever you want to do with her.

I mean most importantly, don't view her as a goddess or something, she's a normal girl, with normal thoughts and desires, treat her like a normal girl

[Vagamefreak]

I understand Cid. I know it sounded completely farfetched and retarded that I viewed her as a higher up person. It's just, I've never even fathomed meeting anyone who is known through more than just the local city.

I will take both of your ideas and try them. In a nutshell, I'm being told to just be myself, and try to strike up conversation. I appreciate the advice.

I will probably be going back to the Gamestop sometime this Friday so I will put those to the test. If anyone has anything to add feel free to do so.


Thanks a lot.

[GohanX]

Go get her man. Don't be aggressive or anything but just talk to her as if she was your average girl. It all starts with small talk and first impression. If she digs you on the first try go to Gamestop to talk to her every now and then. Dont make it too frequent tho or you'll seem like a weirdo in her mind (because after all...you ARE a complete stranger.)

[~Felly~]

Yeah. Just start a simple, normal conversation. "Hi, how are you?" And stuff like that. Don't go too far with the conversation though. If you feel that you're getting too far in, just say "Sorry, I have to go. I told a few of my friends that I'd meet up with them soon." And go. Just treat her like you would treat another girl that's a friend of yours.

[masterblacktop]

go get her that simi- pro gamer show her what you got:rolledeye

[HRBEK]

Like Cid said, talk to her more and more... Like a gradual process! Learn some stuff about her so that you'll know whether you truly like her or not. When she starts to expect your company (eg. a chat), that is when things will start going North for you, haha. Cid also said to remember she is a normal girl, and yes that's something you should never forget!

If you start treating her like absolute royalty, she will feel a bit uncomfortable and it will impact on your life. Prioritising is not always the right way to go. At this point you haven't really learnt much about her, so don't put her ahead of everyone else. Learn more about her and then slowly let her progress in your list of priorities. Becoming dependent on the thought of being with a girl is never good/ healthy (even after you get to know her).

I made that error, but in the end she gave in, haha. But, if she had said no to me I would be in all sorts of emotional trouble, so don't make the same mistake there!

Just keep your nerves about you and remember to play it smart. Cid nailed it when he said to take it slow and not make things obvious. Talk to her an understand her and then you will know how to make your move (if you need help with that you can always ask here, haha). If you make it obvious that you have a crush, it could and probably would be discouraging for her!

Corny as it may sound; you just have to be yourself. Don't act differently around her, because you don't want to have separate personas for different people. Give it a go man and just remember, the more you put it off, the more likely it is that someone else will ask. The right girl isn't going to be there forever so you have to build-up the courage!

Best of luck with her mate!

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Sister of Metal]

it's wonderful to read all these comments as being a girl...how guys 'nail' girls:D...ghihihi....
anyway..
it's good to see there's some good spirit out there in stead of 'get her in the bag and bang her', keep it up, follow your hearts and minds fellow's, not that...that...6th chakra of yours:rolledeye

[GohanX]

it's good to see there's some good spirit out there in stead of 'get her in the bag and bang her',

We're not all that shallow :P

[Volk]

Sorry I can't help you. But from what I've seen, The other people have give good advice.

[HRBEK]

^^^Get her in the bag and bang her, haha... We're not that bad! We'd at least use a sack, hehe! We have morals don't we guys?!?

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Cid Highwind]

We're not all that shallow :P


Go get her man.

*cough*

[Vagamefreak]

Nice observance there Cid haha.


Ah, Sister, I'm not even trying to "nail" this girl. I'm just trying to become friends with her. I have a feeling with her being 19, she'd definitely take me for being too young. Though, in the future it probably wont hurt to try, and I probably will.

However for the time being, I am not trying to "nail" her at all.

[Cid Highwind]

Ouch, revealing her age poses some interesting problem, yes.

I think most people know that a lot of girls usually go for guys that are older then themselves. It's a fact.

[HRBEK]

Considering that women live longer than men that's a weird fact, haha. But yes it is true! The man is typically older, particularly in relationships between two young people (25 years of age or younger). Becoming friends with her is the first step anyway. Eventually if you make yourself into a good/ close friend you will always be a chance later on! Then you can nail her, haha. Sorry...

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Sister of Metal]

Nice observance there Cid haha.


Ah, Sister, I'm not even trying to "nail" this girl. I'm just trying to become friends with her. I have a feeling with her being 19, she'd definitely take me for being too young. Though, in the future it probably wont hurt to try, and I probably will.

However for the time being, I am not trying to "nail" her at all.

I'm not..saying argh , no :P
I KNOW you're not trying to nail her damnit:p you sound sincere so that's good, I'm encouraging!!! reaaaad people, reeeaad xD.

[Cid Highwind]

She's totally making fun of you.

Tieke je weet toch dat je geen arme jongetjes mag lastig vallen, fooei

[GohanX]

*cough*

*cough*

Should i have said don't go after her? I didn't say " hey man go screw her!" I said go get her. And sense you don't get what i was trying to say i'll rephrase. Just go talk to her man.

So that cough was pointless.

[Vagamefreak]

Well, aside from Sister's, strange wordings and possible poking fun o.o...

I kinda have a history of dating older people for some reason. Maybe I just got lucky.

In other news, I just found out today that at this very moment in time she's trying to persue...well...a girl. Yeah, I think I can officially say I crapped my pants. Though, i'm still going to try to get to know her.

Who saw this one coming? Ha.

[Cid Highwind]

Female hardcore gamers are dykes?

[Forsaken]

she lives on the same block as j00? man she is quite a cutie, can I come stay wit u for a week?

[HRBEK]

Now Cid takes a dive in the shallow end hahahaha! I guess some are and some aren't. It would be wrong to generalise now wouldn't it, lol!

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Cid Highwind]

Nice facade there Hrbek but we all know it's the harsh truth, and I can tell by your answer that even you agree!

[Sister of Metal]

Well, aside from Sister's, strange wordings and possible poking fun o.o...
.


I'm not, cid's screwing with your brain >.<

geen arme jongetjes lastivallen marco, je weet !:P

are you sure she isn't bi***ual ?

[Vagamefreak]

I'm not entirely sure...and i'm really not going to ask her either :)


Cid stop messing with my head :p.


Sure Forsaken. You can come stay with me. Though, you gotta bring the food. Haha. I get hungry easy.

[HRBEK]

^^^Haha, rats I've been foiled... Hehe no I'm don't think that! Good idea, don't ask! Has this discovery made you feel iffy/ uncertain about her? Do you still like her (I guess is what I mean to ask)..?

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Vagamefreak]

Heh, I haven't swam to the shallow end yet. Of course It hasn't changed. Yes I still do like her. I suppose that's how you can put.


However, now I'm curious. Female gamers are usually dykes I take it? Now that is a shocker. Don't think I could listen to the girl on Rainbowsix the same way haha.

Kidding. Kidding....Say, doesn't Sister game? Felly as well?

[Cid Highwind]

Just the harcdcore gamers, not casual ones, in today's life wether you are male or female you almost can't possibly get around games anymore

geen arme jongetjes lastivallen marco, je weet !:P
Je zou precies moeten weten wat ik denk :P

[Sister of Metal]

Kidding. Kidding....Say, doesn't Sister game? Felly as well?


what are you implying :P

( marco: dat moet je me dan maar een keer uitleggen:P)

[Sesshy]

nail her
.

Think about all the kids that could be watching this (:() and i wonder so much what you all are saying,anyways..........Follow 'some things' and i mean the right things and not stupid things and its my opinion but i think you regard pro gamer as celebrities in a way (no offense ~.-

~ Chilla

[Vagamefreak]

what are you implying :P


I'm not implying anything! Honest!...Well, I'm not anymore. I WAS. But I decided to drop it.

[Cid Highwind]

Zie je Tiek! Kzou m slaan! haha

[Some1]

Ask her out for some coffee.

[Vagamefreak]

I don't even know if she likes coffee. XD

Maybe I'll just march in there and yell "DO YOU FOLKS LIKE COFFEE" and see if I get anyone's attention.

[Sesshy]

lol that would be funny if you went up and did that

[masterblacktop]

lol that would be funny if you went up and did that

that would be so rude... be polite:D

[Sister of Metal]

don't be polite, be yourself! besides, women don't always needs subtle hints. They just need to get used to people...after that subtility will get you nowhere but in the friend-category.. well most of the time. I'm just a silly girl anyway, but nevertheless, you could just try it that way. Gamergirls are a special species ey xD

[-Gold-]

yeah i'd have to say that girls are humans and be yourself and if she likes you then you can be friends. you dont have to think of some special thing to get her attention just say something you would say to anyone [not just a girl you really like].

i've been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and things are great. All i can really say is act like you would around anyone and dont be uptight/nervous. strike up a conversation and see where things go ;)

[DayleJ]

ok mate i admit that i havn't read every post but the ones i have have been pretty poor advice. if she is so well known then she will of been subjected to a lot of attention but every ordinary guy thats smiled at her. the thing you need to do is STAND OUT and be different so that you do catch her attention. also being ****y n funny is a great characteristic to portray (too ****y and you're a prick, too funny and you just come across as a clown, you need the blanace of the two)
if you hav her on myspace message her (mean otherwise why hav her added?) something simple but different like "aliens are gonna abduct all the best gamers in the world, but as your not one of them you'll be safe, i'm just messagin to say goodbye" you may get an array of different replies to do that she may even challenege you or whatever, worse thing you can do is nothing....because then nothing will happen and all you will do is wonder...

my two cents anyway, i'm no expert :)

[Liquid Snake]

I kinda just skipped to this page, so I don't know if you've made any progress or anything

As useless and clichéd as this advice is, you just have to be yourself...seriously...

If she doesn't like who you are, then she's clearly not for you, even if she is hot.

I'd just go up to her and be like "Hey, you're *whatever her name is*, right? I added you on Myspace a little while back...it's so cool to actually meet you!", y'know, some crappy small talk like that.

An obvious conversation topic would be gaming. As nerdy as it sounds, I'd just ask her about a random game you like and if she has it, just start up a conversation about it. You can talk for so long to a girl if you have shared interests, and obviously gaming would be a shared interest.

Unless it honestly feels right, I wouldn't ask her out for "coffee" or "lunch" or any of that crap. At least, not the first time you've spoken to her anyway. If you wanna try it, I'd be a little subtle about it. Something like "Dunno about you, but I'm starving...wanna go grab some food or something?"

But yeah, I dunno really...I know how ****ing hard it is to kinda strike up a conversation with a hot girl you've never met before, seriously, I used to get **** nervous...but when you properly get going, it kinda just generally flows if you're talking about something good. It's just getting started that's the problem.

Hope I've helped a little. :)