Family Problems...

[Papelbon]

Guys, I need your help. My dad has been screaming at me for no reason lately. Most recently, for not tucking in my shirt for baseball. Then when I got in the car to go home, he pointed his index finger at me, and screamed at me. Like WTF m8? Also, if I don't do good in a baseball game, SHAZAM!, there goes the pointing again. It's been pissing me off and im getting sick and tired of it. Im doing worst in school and in baseball. He just wont stop screaming at me and picking on me! You guys got any advice?

[Nova]

My dad is the same thing. I play soccer pretty well but never good enough for him. Im actually much better than him. But anyways, just ignore it. I've learn to do that.

[SaveMySoul]

Stand up for yourself, or else he will continue to do it over and over again.

[Cid Highwind]

That's easy to say, take in mind he is 14 years old, he won't even have an impact on his dad for standing up to him, it will only get him into more trouble.

What about the rest of your family? Try telling them what your father is doing to you, how it's affecting your school and everything else.

If you can't reach your family you're really going to have a hard time, you're too young to try and impress and/or threaten him so that is out of the question. If it is a really big problem you just have to call in some help, like child care service or something, even though it sounds lame, but he's not really acting like a responsible adult.

[HRBEK]

^Couldn't have said it better myself! Tell other members of your family and they will help you reason with your father and might be able to cool him down a bit. Either ask your father why he is acting this way, or ask your mother (who might have some idea). Get your whole family to sit down at the table and discuss what's going on. Your father won't act childish in the company of the other members of his family.

Also as Cid said, you might need external help with this issue if your family can't do anything about it. A mediator/ youth counsellor might be able to assist you in exploring possible avenues for restoring the bond between you and your father.

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[~Felly~]

You could always get other family members to go to baseball games with you and your dad. He probably would stop acting like that if they did go with you two to the games.

[Papelbon]

My mom is on my dads side, and well my brother, he coudn't care less. The only person that understands me and supports me are my Houseleague and Travelling team baseball coaches... Thanks for the help though guys, ill try talking to my dads brothers etc.

[HRBEK]

Good luck mate! I hope things work out for you...

Thanks,
HRBEK.

[Excalibur]

My Dad is awesome but my mum is a b!tch and I hate her.

Yeah u kinda get used to the yelling screamming and all that.Just ignore him and hell stop.

Excalibur!!!

[Forsaken]

unfortunately there are so many factors in these situations including the child (YOU) being a little rat ******* with little comprehension of the "bigger picture" that causes all sorts of what look like parental disfunctions when in retrospect it was actually to stop you from sitting at a computer playing WoW for 18 hours and missing out on schooling.

to be honest, the only people that dont owe their parents at least the decency and respect to not call their mother a b!tch are orphans or the abused, you however are aparently neither, you probably have your own room, you have access to a computer and the internet, no doubt get at least three meals a day + snacks.


@ Papelbon
if you really want to **** with your family and your genuinely not interested in becoming a sports star/athlete you need to keep your head down and study, unfortunately smart people are alienated in most western culture because the majority of the population are poorly educated. Which is why they look up to sports stars and athletes, they find them easier to relate to. Smart people however are intimidating to most people it's true.

apart from that enjoy your creativity and join a band bro.

I guess the number one rule kids should know, is even though it's easy to blame your parents you are ultimately responsible for you. so wake up and think next time your mum comes in and asks you to get off the computer after making your dinner and rolling your socks.

Ingrates

[GohanX]

I agree with you Forsaken. Referring to your mother as a b!tch shows no maturity on your part. No matter how she may act or whatever the case may be.

Papelbon: Continue to talk to other adults in your family. Even your teachers. Don't bring child services in until he gets physical. You know like hitting you and things like that. You're a little old to be getting whoopin's in todays age but i doubt he'd think to spank you in the first place. Hard to believe your mom would be on your case too. You don't cause any trouble do you?

[Volk]

What I belive is that it takes two to argue. So in saying that I ask you Papelbon, Frist look at yourself,Did your do something to piss you dad off ?Second,Look at your dad, Is he under a lot of stress? If you can not find an answer after asking yourself thes two quistions, then go to your farther and calmly ask him if you did something to make him mad. If he goes off on you again just because you asked this quistion, Then there is a promblem with his life that he is going to have to work out. Just grit your teeth and bite your tongue and wait for this to blow over.

[Monster Hunter]

papelbon: is this still going on? you posted this a month ago. If you still need help then don't get mad in front of him. He will then have something to say when you get help from your other family members. He might have been going through a hard time at work. I used to get mad at my dad when he yells at me, but think about this. If you went to work and had a hard time and then you couldn't yell because that would get you fired then you came home and you were mad what would you do? It usually goes both ways without the other one knowing it. I mean you might be doing something to make him mad. I don't know what goes on in your house I haven't lived there, but you can get good help by talking to someone like a therapist. I went there once it helped. Hope you get over it. Don't just stay there and do nothing act.

-MH

[Nova]

unfortunately there are so many factors in these situations including the child (YOU) being a little rat ******* with little comprehension of the "bigger picture" that causes all sorts of what look like parental disfunctions when in retrospect it was actually to stop you from sitting at a computer playing WoW for 18 hours and missing out on schooling.

to be honest, the only people that dont owe their parents at least the decency and respect to not call their mother a b!tch are orphans or the abused, you however are aparently neither, you probably have your own room, you have access to a computer and the internet, no doubt get at least three meals a day + snacks.


@ Papelbon
if you really want to **** with your family and your genuinely not interested in becoming a sports star/athlete you need to keep your head down and study, unfortunately smart people are alienated in most western culture because the majority of the population are poorly educated. Which is why they look up to sports stars and athletes, they find them easier to relate to. Smart people however are intimidating to most people it's true.

apart from that enjoy your creativity and join a band bro.

I guess the number one rule kids should know, is even though it's easy to blame your parents you are ultimately responsible for you. so wake up and think next time your mum comes in and asks you to get off the computer after making your dinner and rolling your socks.

Ingrates

So true, one day your mother isn't gonna be there to take care of you and you're gonna wish you hadnt called here a *****

[Papelbon]

This still goes on abit. All of your advice is contributing. @ Volk, he only gets mad at me because of baseball. He says im too picky with my pitches and bla blah blah... And yes i guess he is under lots of stress lately, he's working on writing a book, and its due soon, and he's behind...so yah...

[Forsaken]

I agree with you Forsaken. Referring to your mother as a b!tch shows no maturity on your part. No matter how she may act or whatever the case may be.

Papelbon: Continue to talk to other adults in your family. Even your teachers. Don't bring child services in until he gets physical. You know like hitting you and things like that. You're a little old to be getting whoopin's in todays age but i doubt he'd think to spank you in the first place. Hard to believe your mom would be on your case too. You don't cause any trouble do you?

great advice Gohanx.

@papelbon, just be happy he is only giving u a finger waddling!

something I have found and kids your folks would never admit it

in a LOT of cases parents are quite bitter and resentful that they had you in the first place, ruining what should have been the best years of their life, if it wasnt for the fact you were growing inside them, so for example you were "birthed" as an egg your parents would take one look and go hmmm....

"Omelette...?"

[Nova]

This is something that occurs with my father sometimes as well. I think i'ts mainly because they never had a chance to play that sport so they want you to play the best you can. But they want you to play as they would play.

[GohanX]

Thats sounds right on the money Nova. He may also be up tight because he wants you to be great at what you do just becasue he couldn't be. It'd be a little extreme if that was really his problem but that's very possible.

Forsaken: Omelette? my mom cracked up when she saw that lol:P

[Volk]

My life around my house is pretty quite. But, Just like any other family my farther gripes at me sometimes. But I know the reason why he fusses at me like he does. He didn't get to raise he frist son the way he wanted to so now he trying doublely hard to raise me the he wanted to raise his frist son. But other than that it's preety quite.

[GoOdOeRwIcKeD]

I'll let you barrow my koala?

And Forsaken pretty much hit it on the button, If your parents still raise you and atleast act like there your son instead of beating you ignoring you not feeding you and everything then you should be greatful, but if not... take my koala.. he will get you out of it